What is the relationship between your identity and your desires? Perhaps related, perhaps not: why is sex (un)important to you?
The older I get the more I question everything about how I’ve constructed my identity and personality. So much of it was survival. Now that I have found love and some acceptance and a bit of relative safety, I wonder about all the early sculpting that shaped Matthew.
Sex is a great metaphor. Queer sex still has the power to dismantle. In practice, it can be great, or it can flop, it can be with one person or many, someone you know or don’t. For me, it’s always related to the desire to know and be known, however futile that desire.
